When you were a kid, were you called a nerd and if so, how did you deal with it?

When I was a little boy I was called a nerd all the time, because I didn’t like sports, I loved to read, I liked math and science. I thought school was really cool, and it hurt, a lot, because it’s never okay when a person makes fun of you for something that you didn’t choose. We don’t choose to be nerds. We can’t help that we like these things, and we shouldn’t apologize for it.

I wish that I could tell you that there’s a really easy way to just not care, but the truth is that it hurts, but here’s the thing that you might be able to understand, when a person makes fun of you, when a persons cruel to you, it has nothing to do with you. It’s not about what you said, it’s not about what you did, it’s not about what you like. It’s about them feeling bad about themselves, they feel sad, they don’t get the positive influences from their parents, they don’t feel as smart as you , they don’t understand things that you understand. Maybe one of their parents is really pushing them to be a cheerleader or a baseball player or an engineer or something they just don’t want to do.

So they take that out on you, because they can’tgo and be mean to the person who’s actually hurting them. So when a persons cruel to you like that, I know it’s hard but the kind and best reaction is to pity them, and don’t let them make you feel bad because you love a thing. Maybe find out what they like, and talk about how they love it. I bet you find out that a person who loves tetherball, loves tetherball the same exact way you love Doctor Who, but they just like different things.

And I will tell you this, it absolutely gets better as you get older. I know it’s really hard when you’re in school surrounded by the same 400 people a day that pick on you and make you feel bad about yourself, but there’s 50,000 people here this weekend, who want to do the exact same thing, and we’re all doing really well.

Don’t you ever let a person make you feel bad, bcause you love something they decided was only for neds. If you’re loving a thing, you’re loving it for you. Thank you for your question. – Wil Wheaton

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